Malia Mendez, Los Angeles Times
According to relationship scientist Paul Eastwick, online dating is a market where there are dramatic winners and losers. "I think our modern existence happens to pull from modes of interaction that really amp up the importance of mate value," Eastwick said. "But it does not have to be this way, and for a long time, it was not this way."
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