The great sleep divorce: Why couples sleep separately Christiana Donohue for BetterSleep Oct 8, 2026 Oct 8, 2026 Updated Oct 8, 2026 0 A married couple sleeping on their sides in the bedroom. M-Production // Shutterstock Prefer us on Google Learn More Facebook Twitter Bluesky WhatsApp SMS Email Print Copy article link Save Christiana Donohue for BetterSleep kAmu@C 86?6C2E:@?D[ E96 D92C65 365 92D 366? EC62E65 2D 2 567:?:?8 DJ>3@= @7 C@>2?E:4 A2CE?6CD9:A] qFE D@>6 4@FA=6D 2C6 BF6DE:@?:?8 H96E96C D92C:?8 2 =:76 2=D@ >62?D D92C:?8 2 >2EEC6DD 6G6CJ ?:89E]k^AmkAm%96 EC6?5[ @7E6? 42==65 2 “D=66A 5:G@C46[” C676CD E@ A2CE?6CD 49@@D:?8 D6A2C2E6 365D @C 365C@@>D[ 6:E96C C68F=2C=J @C H96? 4:C4F>DE2?46D >2<6 D=66A:?8 E@86E96C 5:77:4F=E] %96 E6C> D@F?5D >@C6 5C2>2E:4 E92? E96 AC24E:46 :ED6=7] u@C >2?J 4@FA=6D[ E96 564:D:@? 92D =6DD E@ 5@ H:E9 C6=2E:@?D9:A EC@F3=6 E92? 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