Cashell Durham – we'll call her “Shelly,” as her brother did – still finds it strange to go a day without the texts. Sometimes, when her phone vibrates, she will think it’s him, for that brief instant when the familiar overrides reality.
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Sean Kirst is a columnist with The Buffalo News. Email him at skirst@buffnews.com.
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