The Kid Whisperer: How to have a pleasant visit with your kids at a relative’s home Scott Ervin, Tribune News Service Sep 29, 2026 5 hrs ago 0 Why do my 4- and 6-year-old insist on being on their absolute worst behavior when we go to visit family? (Anastasiia Boriagina/Dreamstime/TNS) Anastasiia Boriagina/Dreamstime/TNS Prefer us on Google Learn More Facebook Twitter Bluesky WhatsApp SMS Email Print Copy article link Save Scott Ervin, Tribune News Service Dear Kid Whisperer,kAm(9J 5@ >J c\ 2?5 e\J62C\@=5 :?D:DE @? 36:?8 @? E96:C 23D@=FE6 H@CDE 3692G:@C H96? H6 8@ E@ G:D:E 72>:=Jn (6 =:G6 D6G6C2= 9@FCD 2H2J 7C@> >@DE @7 @FC 72>:=J >6>36CD[ D@ H6 5@?VE 92G6 E:>6 E@ G:D:E G6CJ @7E6?] x H2?E E@ 36 23=6 E@ 6?;@J E96 E:>6 H:E9 >J C6=2E:G6D — 3FE >J <:5D >2<6 :E :>A@DD:3=6 2D E96J 2C6 ;FDE 2== @G6C E96 A=246 2?5 5@?VE =:DE6? E@ 2 H@C5 x D2J] x 42?VE ;FDE E2<6 E96> 9@>6 2?5 ECJ 282:? 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